How to be a Proverbs 31 Husband

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The last twenty-one verses of Proverbs 31 are about a good and virtuous wife.

There are some great character qualities for women to think about there – hardworking, generous, passionate, caring, industrious, a sacrificial heart, a good speaker, loves to laugh, and she enjoys her family.

When I look at these verses, I notice that the husband of this woman is mentioned 3 times.

Lets look at those 3 mentions and see if we can glean something for husbands today.

How to be a Proverbs 31 Husband

1. vs. 11 – Her husband can trust her, and she will greatly enrich his life.

This husband trusts his wife. One version of this passage says that with her, “he has everything he needs’ . There must be Trust.

Not controlling. Not manipulation. Trust.

Do you believe that she has your best interests in mind? Do you believe that you are on the same team with her? Are you together on the some of the “biggies” in marriage – SEX, MONEY, CHILDREN, COMMUNICATION and INLAWS?

This husband trusts her and she enriches his life.  When you are on the same team with your wife, it allows her to bring fullness to your life.  When you trust, you allow her to be all she is, you build her up and allow her to grow and blossom into a beautiful woman.  If you don’t trust, she is unable to thrive.

Wives – Do you give your husband the opportunity to trust you?  Do you keep the things he tells you in confidence?  Do you build him up, or tear him down with your words?

2. vs. 23 – Her husband is well known at the city gates where he sits with the other civic leaders.

This husband is respected by others.  These section in Proverbs talks mainly about the woman being industrious and hardworking, but in this verse, we see that the husband ain’t no slacker.  He’s involved with business and work going on in the city.

This is something we should all strive to be.  Men who care about the decisions that are going on where we live.  Our Villages, cities, states, nations…we should be involved, we should care about what is going on where we live.

The phrase – “Behind every good man is a good woman” comes to mind.  Because of the wonderful relationship that this man has with his wife – he is free to be a decision maker, a mover and a shaker.  She is such a woman of great character, that he is able to excel in the marketplace.

Together, this husband and wife are an amazing team.

Hubbys: Are you the kind of man that she can believe in?

Wifeys: What can your hubby do to help you believe in him?

3. vs. 28,29 – …Her husband praises her: “There are many virtuous and capable women in the world, but you surpass them all!”

This guy knows how to give a compliment.  “Other women are nice and all, but Sweet Lips – YOU are the cream of the crop.” (that’s the SGLT version – Stu Gray Living Translation)

We need to compliment our wives.  They take care of so many things.  My Beautiful Wife™ is a great “administrator” person – she’s good with the bills, she’s good with the organizing of the house, the laundry, the scheduling, the food we eat… and how much do I acknowledge that?

Not nearly enough.

The compliments and encouragements have to be real.  They must be heart felt, and they can’t be generic.  Think of something specific that your wife does and that makes your life easier…

Then tell her!!!

To be a Proverbs 31 Husband we should:

*Trust Our Wives!

*Be a Man Worthy of a Good Woman!

*Praise Her More Often!

Ladies – How does your Husband Measure up? Is he a Proverbs 31 Guy?

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  1. love this.
    I am an overseas worker in a closed country and my wife and I do marriage counseling as well as weekly groups on marriage. I thought tonight about the husband of the Proverbs 31 wife and typed it in and this site came up. Thanks again, will use this if you don’t mind.

  2. Stu,
    You are right when you say that appreciation should not be generic, but specific. Most couples fail to notice the goodness of their spouse and go about their married life mechanically and routinely. How can they enjoy a good married life when they fail to appreciate one another.
    Husband in the name of practicality fails to notice how much his wife strives to make his life comfortable. I liked the simplicity of your advice.

  3. Wow, what a blessing it is to be reminded of how we should act and live as husband and wife according to the principles of the Bible. Yes, those characters are important to strengthen and lengthen a marriage relationship. Thanks for sharing!

  4. Thanks Stu, that’s good stuff. Glad to hear someone talking about the Proverbs 31 husband.

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