When the Japanese mend broken objects, they aggrandize the damage by filling the cracks with gold. They believe that when something’s suffered damage and has a history it becomes more beautiful. ~Barbara Bloom
I have to be honest.
I had to look up the word “aggrandize”.
I knew it had to be full of meaning, and I wasn’t surprised at all:
Aggrandize: to widen in scope; increase in size or intensity; enlarge; extend. OR to make great or greater in power, wealth, rank, or honor. OR to make (something) appear greater.
There is No Testimony Without a Test
I remember a friend saying they couldn’t keep going in their marriage because there was “too much water under the bridge”. He meant that they knew too much about each other and because of that, they shouldn’t keep going as a couple.
It was a sad statement as to the state of their union. From my vantage point, that is a strong reason to STAY in a marriage.
With each obstacle that you battle and win together, you become stronger, and the cracks in your marriage can become “golden”.
You can point others to your cracks that have now become strong and say “Look – this used to be ugly and busted, but we came together and mended it. Now it’s beautiful.”
It seems to me that the most inspiring stories of marriages are the ones that have suffered some sure defeat, only to come out the other side stronger and more together than they were before the test.
Then, when they share their story – it has such power and beauty in it.
It kinda reminds me of a certain Jewish man who showed his scarred hands to his followers and went, “Look – I did this for you and I’m alive and better than ever.”
Maybe every time you go into a worship space and see a stained glass window, it can be a reminder for you. All those busted little pieces of colored glass melded together to make a work of beauty.
Maybe like a marriage that has come out of the other side of difficulties.
“Look, we were nearly broken to bits, but then we were melded together in the heat and pressure to make something beautiful.”