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We saw this movie with Queen Latifah recently called Last Holiday. (Its a couple years old, but if you haven’t seen it, (guys) its not bad. And I am pretty picky about romantic comedies)
To give you the Hollywood pitch: Georgia Byrd finds out that she has 3 months to live. She up and quits her job in order to live life to the fullest in her last days.
Georgia (Queen Latifah) keeps a Dream Journal. She puts pictures of all the places she wants to go, and all the people she wants to meet…the man she wants to marry, etc…
Do you dream about your future with your hunny?
Why not?
What are your plans for your marriage 20 years from now ? 10 years? 5 years? Next year?
Why not set some goals, and get some actions going that will get you there.
Just sitting down and talking about goals will connect you in ways you haven’t been connected in so long.
Stephen Covey says: “Start with the end in mind”
Dreaming and envisioning your future TOGETHER might just help you get there.
Maybe that’s what is lacking today in lots of marriages. No vision about the future with each other!!
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Its easy to disconnect and not talk at all. I have found that a great way to get conversation going, is to ask questions about church. Its easy because:
- We both Go (just being there with your spouse creates a connection with each other – because it is something you are doing together!)
- We both have different feelings about what was said
- We receive the message in different ways
- It gives us common topics to talk about
- We like to hear what moved the other person
Whatever your place of worship is, we have found that this is a great way to connect, and start a conversation that could be picked up, and continued, several times during the week.
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Written by Lisa…
We were very fortunate to work together before we were a couple.
We learned about each other and observed each other in a business setting.
I think we both respected and admired each others work ethic. I am so grateful that this respect has carried into our marriage.
Do you have a hard time respecting your spouse?
I encourage you to make a list of things your spouse does (positive only) and focus on those items.
If you spouse has taken out the trash, washed the dishes, mowed the yard, put gas in the car, even if it was only once, focus on those things.
Encourage him in the small things, and ignore the bigger things that haven’t been done.
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Ladies, I think guys enjoy being wanted.
No, I take that back.
I know they enjoy being wanted.
Show him you really desire him and can’t wait for him to set foot across the threshold of your house.
If it leads to numbers 40-44, or 118, even better!
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Written by the Beautiful Wife
I don’t know how many times I see couples with children, some without, eating dinner and not speaking a word to each other.
I know that everyone is not a talker like I am, but verbal communication is SO important in a marriage.
Talk about work, the kids, news, sports, weather, family… anything!
Just speak and connect again!
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I believe that it was author and pastor Rob Bell who really nailed this thought for me.
Check this out:
The Bible is a story about a God who actively Loves people into their future.
He Gave his Son Jesus, first…because he loved us so much.
Pretty cool deal.
Yet, we don’t do that so well.
We get caught up in what they didn’t do yesterday, or last week, or when we first started dating…and we hold on to it.
How can we get into the future with all this baggage?
What if we loved someone into the awesome future of our marriage?
It’s that whole Sacrificial Love Thing.
Its that whole Forgiving and Forgetting Thing
Its that whole Having a Vision for the Future of Your Marriage Thing
Thinking the best about your mate allows you to sacrifice, allows you to forgive and allows you to envision what you two will be doing together in 50 plus years.
That’s a very cool thing.
More on this topic? Loving your Spouse Into the Future
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I believe that having sex is a gift for married couples.
Here is an interesting thing that I learned recently: Its a way that God differentiates married couples from just “Friends”.
So, if you aren’t having sex, you, in effect, have stopped being in a marriage relationship.
That’s kind of an eye opener for couples that aren’t having sex.
Sexual communication in marriage is an important thing. Not just the act itself, but afterwards as well.
Sex helps husbands and wives feel more connected, and the feeling of connectedness lasts over a period of time.
When you feel connected, you are more likely to communicate.
Perhaps you should use several of the points on this list to get you to the point where you actually want to have sex with one another again.
Once you begin having sex again… don’t let that momentum be interrupted!
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