Two people are better off than one, for they can help each other succeed. If one person falls, the other can reach out and help. But someone who falls alone is in real trouble. Likewise, two people lying close together can keep each other warm. But how can one be warm alone? A person standing alone can be attacked and defeated, but two can stand back-to-back and conquer. Three are even better, for a triple-braided cord is not easily broken. – Ecc. 4:9-12
Our son was a mess all day long. He woke up cranky and continued to throw around attitude — yelling and screaming. He’d be ok for a handful of minutes and then be right back to defying me. I probably didn’t handle it as well as I should have. When he sticks out his bottom lip and gives the evil eyebrow, its like this silent battle of will and someone has to give. He is bound and determined that it won’t be him.
After a time out my beautiful wife explained to him that it was possible to call Santa Claus and ask him to not bring presents to our house.
I was taken aback. I tried to remember if my parents ever told me that. Probably so, but I never thought I’d be a parent who would actually threaten with ‘no Santa’. That threat worked for a bit, but didn’t last long.
We made it to the mall for a last minute sale when He then decided to call me ‘stupid’.
Stupid is one of those words for me. If its thrown in my direction, I quickly get upset, or angry.
The interesting thing was that I didn’t hear him say it. But Lisa did. She took our son by the hand and took him outside. I understood something he said must have been bad, but I didn’t’ know what.
When they returned, he had red eyes and an apology. Mom says “You need to tell Dad your sorry”. “Sorry Daddy”. “What did you call Daddy?” “Stupid”. “And what did I tell you would happen if we use that word?” “I don’t’ know.”
I was trying to follow the conversation between the two of them, then she says, “We don’t say stupid, if we do, the next time we get a time out and will be grounded from TV or our toys.” Wow. Nice to know that my wife has my back! That whole ‘losing toy privileges’ hit a chord with him.
I know we have lots to learn as parents. Yet, I also know that need to be on the same page. When Lisa throws out the Grounding idea, I need to nod in agreement, even if we talk about it later (out of earshot of the cool kiddo.)
Its good to have someone to share the joys of parenting.